The Hottest Trend in Dating: Speed Dating !

by: Amit Laufer

Let’s start by explaining what is it exactly Speed Dating. This can be arranged individually or by an organization as a Speed Dating Party with many people. The principle is the same, You participate in a fast round of short (few minutes per date) but with as many as 25 partners per session. This Fast Dating method is quiet efficient and rewarding alike.

Usually in few minutes, sometimes only three minutes you get to see your potential date, get a short impression from his/her looks, voice, accent, dress, self confidence and self esteem, few background information, enough for you and for them to make a go, no go quick decision which you can discreetly mark on a small card according to their tag identification Number.

Usually these speed dating sessions are taken place at a cool fun bars. Arranged with tables for two, ready for these multi mini dates sessions. Each participant is seated in front of his date and when the host is blowing the whistle it is the signal it is time to move on to the next date. It goes on and on until you finish all your mini dates.

When you get home, you input the codes names of the partners you liked into the online dating system, you get a second chance to see their pictures and refresh your memory. After each participant inputted his selections the system makes the final matching of the preferences of all participants. Hopefully, at the end of this computerized process you get a list of potential dates you liked and like wise were interested in you.

Now, it’s up to you to send an email to a partner and set a real quality date. This time there is no stress as you both acknowledged your mutual attraction for each other.

It’s no wonder this method is a hit as it has some notable advantages over some other ways to meet people, like blind dates and pick-up bars. Just imagine, you arrive to a blind date with high hopes only to discover in as little as 15 seconds you are not attracted at all to the date partner. Since you are such a good hearted boy and you don’t want to disappoint your date you go out together to a movie and spend some more time and money in a café when you know it has no future what so ever. Not only that, think about it, you would have spent that time and money 25 times!

How to Ask Someone Out on a Date?

No more hesitations, this is the moment you have been dreaming of and only you could push it to reality. But, how could you have that dream date? Of course, you have to start from the top. And, that is to ask the person you are interested out on a date. Well, how could you invite a person out? Do you need to be aggressive? Do you need to play safe? Tips to ask someone out would surely be a great help for you.

The following are simple but very essential tips you could lean on in times that you seem to find it hard asking a person for a date. For men, these tips are really great help for you invite that person in your mind.

• Know the right reason or reasons for asking a person out. When you know your purpose, it would surely have the idea of how to express it in a medium that you are most comfortable with.
• What if the person says no? Save that part of you and prepare to whatever the answer of the other person is. Do not take the “no” so heavily. Learn the beauty of grace in such times.
• In order to say well the words you want to express, you may try to do some practicing in order for you to get conditioned of how to say such lines you needed to tell the person you want to be with.
• Be sure that you have the most important details you have for the date in mind. The person might say “yes” and you just do not know where to go, that would be a real “turn off”. As much as possible, be ready with ideas.
• See to it that you know how to answer whenever the person asks you why you are asking her out. You do not have to be a very huge flatterer but you have to make sure that you make the person feel good. This way of showing how much thoughtful you are.
• Never pressure a person to go out with you. This is not healthy and it would even branch out to negative outcomes. Remember not to pressure a person to tell you why it is a “no”.
• Do not stand people up. This means that when you ask a person out, you mean it and you do not leave her just expecting for nothing at all.
• If the person says no, do not be bitter about it. You just have to move on and never treat the person unwell.
• Having some beer just to boost your confidence is a no. It may just push you to worse situations. You have to be naturally confident.
• The more, the merrier but not for a first date. When you are out to ask a person for a date, do not do it when she is with a circle of friends.

These are really useful tips and you have to take note of them, they would surely help you out in maximizing the time you spend with that special person.